Growing up, we were all taught not to judge a book by its cover, right? They even told of how all are equal before God and what is good for you may not be great for another. What they missed was telling us how societal conditioning is hard to change or influence. You are either well-dressed or not, nothing in between.
Your dressing defines who you are. It tells in a subtle way the person you are, fixing a tag on you. Defining your relationships or breaking yokes for you. I don’t mean that we all get to follow fashions trends; no, far from that. I am not one to follow trends either; I try to steer clear of fashion matters as much as I can. But, I am tired of people dressing badly. I am tired of people telling me how they missed a lifetime opportunity and they cannot tell why. I am tired of people not dressing for their bodies – it is appaling. Wear what you are comfortable with, yes, however, ensure it works for your body.
There is something for everyone in the marketplace, take time and find it. It is time for us to stop burying our heads in the sand like the proverbial ostrich. Time to dress as we want to be addressed.
Quick Psychological Judgment
First impressions stick. How you dress shapes opinions people make about you in less than three seconds of engagement. Are you looking for a job: dress professionally. Going to a sports event: dress in a similar manner. Human beings are superficial and judgmental, let no one lie to you otherwise. We make snappy subconscious decisions faster than the blink of an eye. This societal conditioning decides whether one is taken seriously or not and the outcome of the interaction. Remember how we easily conclude the sex of a newborn just from the color coordination the mother uses? Pink for a girl and blue for a boy then white for neutrality before birth.
Dressing to impress is purely a psychological game. Learn it! It boosts confidence and goodwill. Yes, first tell me how do you feel in that new dress or newly manicured nails? What about you guy adorning a new haircut and a pair of Ferragamo’s derby? Ehe, tell me now, how is that feeling? You feel on top of this world, more self-assured, exuding confidence in self-right?. You tend to trust yourself some more and, in the process, get to expect more from yourself and your performance. You attain an excellence in delivery, after all, everyone seems to notice the new look. In a way, it instills a sense of more responsibility and you easily adjust to this new feel. You inspire and attract others to you and you feel you want to teach all to dress well too.
What are you waiting for then? Why do you wait for the relapse to take its toll on you? Refuse to dress normal and shine on. Stand out from the crowds and get noticed. You looking good attracts attention, subtly introducing your presence. Your sharp dressing easily differentiates you from the crowd, putting you in a place of honor. And, as you get noticed, you too pick a habit of noticing other well-dressed persons. You make new acquittances easily, and others want to identify with you too. You also start to notice dropping collars on others, hair not cared for, un-pressed clothing and hanging hems. The little details lots of us overlook become the deal breakers for you. The small voice in your head screaming, begging for you to mind your own business. Your dressing my dear gives you an image.
It tells the story of the person that you are. Do you want to be an influencer? Most of us always comfortable in our baggy jeans and sweatpants claim to be introverted and that fashion doesn’t matter. That is a lie. We just love our cocoon and isolationism makes us comfortable. Truth be told, it is because we are lazy and live for sorry excuses. There is no way you can influence if you do not command attention. And this starts with your signature look. Who are you addressing? Where is your art, the location is a defining code? What are the events you are attending and the theme? I see students attend lectures in pajamas then years down the line, one returns to the same lecturer asking for help to find a job or internship. Do you think they will forget how you used to dress just because you were a student then?
Looking great and standing out affects how others listen and respond to you. You quietly command attention if you speak, easily taking the position of authority, whether you like it or not. Stereotyping is a human weakness and it will be great if you learn to use it to your benefit. We live in a competitive world after all, and that affects individual mental processes and perceptions.
Are you wearing heels, applying make-up, having a new haircut or adorning some Killer Instinct Perfume by Katy Perry? All these launch the feel-good hormones creating different thoughts in each. Officially dressed, one subconsciously begins to behave in a certain order. Their walking, sitting, talking becomes directed by the official perception and they carry along the characteristics aligned to it. Your self-image is commanded thus and the professionalism is expressed to the best of your ability.
How others see your success, trustworthiness, intelligence, suitability et al is a response to your dressing. It speaks loudly of the person that you are, and there is something about smart dressing that rubs off others even after you leave a location. Jeans or maxi-skirts, cowboy huts or bald-headed, define your signature look and just satisfy you.
It is time for us to learn to dress for our body types and in what works for us. The right bras, perfect panty fits and what styles work for each. We are going to learn this together on this journey of change and growth.
Look out for lessons on getting the right bra fit and designs that will work for you. Coming soon………